Thursday, August 16, 2012

Positive Quote

“If you want to be really successful, and I know you do, then you will have to give up blaming and complaining and take total responsibility for your life — that means all your results, both your successes and your failures. That is the prerequisite for creating a life of success.” Jack Canfield

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Hate Crimes Against Gay/Lesbian/Bisexuals

                I was scrolling through my Facebook log today and saw this photo. Her name is 
Jenna B. , according to the caption that went along with it. 
I decided I would address the issue that came with the story. Jenna slapped a man who was teasing her about her sexuality. She is a lesbian. This man then beat her up. They both reside in Canada.
What gives anyone the right to harass or assault another human being because of her choice in her sex partner? It's not as if she was hurting anyone by this alone. 

               Growing up, I came across many different variations of this. There are gays and lesbians all over my family tree. I have had several gay/lesbian/bisexual friends in my life and I would say that no one has a choice in this.You can choose to be open about it and that's about it as far as your choices go. It's like trying to say you have a choice in whether or not like you like the smell of fish. You don't have a choice. Either you do or you don't. It's up to you whether you still eat it or not. 
          This type of hate in this day and age is just disappointing. We have so many ways of educating people and yet some just refuse to listen. I think there should be a place for people who hate so much to get some sort of rehabilitation or punishment...whichever tactic works for the level that they are at. I am going to research some of the laws regarding hate crimes surrounding sexual orientation. In the United States, this person would have been arrested for sure. 

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Slavery Inside the Walls

I am writing this because I recognize there are still people being enslaved within the walls of our country.

They are being hidden in basements, cellars...being kept hostage right in front of our very eyes. Whether it is sexual slavery, domestic violence, human trafficking or any reason, we need to be more aware of the signs of it.

The United States is a breeding ground for these things because people have many freedoms and they can be used to keep the government out if not recognized for what it is. You can't just search someone's house. And looks are so deceiving. No one would have guessed that my ex-husband's family was beating my children or that I would get beaten if I even looked their way.

I didn't realize that the quiet Nigerian girl who always helped clean his mother's house was really just a slave. I thought she was just being nice. Then when I married him, she disappeared. I believe she was to be his wife until I came into the picture.

If your gut tells you something is wrong, follow it. Do more research. Don't start asking questions. Just be more observant. If you start talking, people will notice and do more to hide the truth. Just keep digging until you find the truth and try to get the person alone and ask them if they need help. You just never know. You could be that one chance they have for life.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Writing a book

I recently began writing the book that people have been telling me I should write for the past ten years.

In March, after I left Abusive Jerk #2, I decided to start going to a group for women who have been facing abuse up at the domestic violence shelter, here in Saginaw, Mich. It is through a place called the Underground Railroad, named appropriately so, as many of us who have been in a domestic violence relationship knows that you are being treated just like a slave. You literally have to sneak out and escape, and sometimes run to another part of the country in order to flee their dictatorship.

The women asked me to tell my story. I tried to condense it as much as possible. When I was finished they all said, you should write a book. I said, "You know what? People have been telling me that for the past ten years. I will do that tonight as soon as I get home."

So that's what I did. I started writing the book about a month and a half ago and I am currently on chapter nine. At times it is really hard to write because I become emotional. Other times, I am dealing with so much anger I cannot focus enough to write the book. My life is a very complicated one, one which continues to grow complicated with time. As I discover who is making it this way, I am cutting them out.

In conclusion, the reason I am not doing much else in my life is that I am focusing as hard as I can on finishing this book and finalizing one of my last goals that I had set for myself as a young adult. Thanks for your interest in my blog and have a great day!!!

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

A woman stands her ground...

This link is to an article about a women caught in a situation many of us have been in. Know your rights people.

A request from my daughter...

This is a story about three little princess mermaids.

The oldest mermaid was named Angel, and the middle mermaid was named Katie-Bug. Finally, the youngest mermaid was Ali-Boobie. All three princess mermaids wished to grow up to be the queen of all Mermaidia, in the Land of Seashellia.

A problem arose one day when the three sister mermaids discovered that there was a rule against having more than one queen. The very same day, their father, King Bojo, was kidnapped by the evil underlord, Hellatian.

The princesses looked through out all of the land to find their father, but it was no use.

Quietly a snail snuck upon them and told them how to get their father back. The snail said, "If the three of you can find a common bond, then your father will be left in the nearest pond."

The three sisters were puzzled.

For weeks they sat around trying to find something they had in common, until the royal assistant asked them who was to be queen. It was then that they realized the answer to their riddle.

Ali-Boobie, understanding that there could only be one queen, new she had to think of a solution to their problem.

Ali-Boobie said, "I will be queen for a day and make a new rule, so that we may all rule Mermaidia together! We shall divide the land into three equal parts."

The sisters agreed.

For one day Ali-Boobie was queen and in that day she gave her sisters equal authority to rule the land by her side so that they may save their father from Hellatian's evil grasp.

Suddenly, there was a clamor. One of the messengers bubbled into the main entrance of the Mer-Castle.

"I have found the king!" he said. "He is in a pond across the way babbling with some seagulls that were lounging around nearby."

So the sisters sent for the royal turtles to go get their father and carry him across the land back into the sea.

Once King Bojo arrived and saw how wonderfully his daughters had handled the situation, he was so proud of them and let them stay in charge of running the kingdom.

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Avon Calling!!!

I would like to list an honorable mention to my good friend Shelley. She is trying to start her Avon business and has a site that she is learning how to conduct on the Internet.

Please take a moment to check it out.


Issues of Domestic Violence

I recently found myself in a second abusive relationship.

I saw all of the signs and kept telling myself that it was not really happening, he couldn't be doing what I thought he was doing. No way. He kept showing all good signs as well.


Things progressively got worse. He started out being just too entirely clingy for a man. It wasn't even cute. Then he had me change my phone number. Next, I had to get off of facebook. All the while, he still had his old number and even a facebook account. Then he began making comments about my friends whom he'd never even met.

I felt completely suffocated.

Next came a night with a huge, horrible fight. He was actually surprised that I would defend myself. I told him, I promised myself never to let a man talk to me or treat me like that. So I don't. I should have left then.

Finally, about three weeks ago, he started in again and took it to another level. So did I. I defended myself just as hard as he tried to hurt me. Luckily, it was self defense or I may be sitting in jail at this very moment.

When you discover that you are with a person who is not good for you and not willing to change, leave. Not next week, not tomorrow. NOW.

It is not going to get any better.

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Amazing Year Ahead: 2012

People who read my blog know that it's been at a stand still and that I love to write but have had a very exciting life and sometimes it doesn't allow me the privilege of contributing my time to the art.

I was using my blog as an outlet for one of my classes last year. That was exciting... ... ...

Anyway, school is almost over. I have started on a new path. TV, as much as I don't like to be on it, as much as I don 't really watch it, seems to be my future regardless of how much I avoid it. I recently began working a TV business...thus thrusting me into blogging about TVs. The irony.

If you would like to see that blog, visit . That's Nika's little brother.

Other adventures I would like to embark on include writing a book and possibly launching a recipe website that I have put a few thousand hours into. We shall see. The TV shop requires a lot of time and this semester is looking like it will be a doozy. Pray that I finish it all by May or I might be stuck for another semester. I just want to get my bachelors!!!! :D

Once again I am going to be posting interesting finds on here again, only I am a little bit more educated these days...I think...or so I've been told. I did just turn 30. :/

Thank-you anyone and everyone who happens upon my little blog. :D Have a great night!!!